The Hook Up Handbook Page 11

  You must not be like these non-dominant, weak men. If you want to have mind-blowing sex with women, you must make a shift.

  (Note: If you see yourself as a non-dominant guy right now, don’t sweat it. I used to be that way too. The beautiful thing is that you can transform into a more dominant man, and it starts with following the advice in this book, and especially within this chapter. So, keep an open mind as you read, and you will avoid the fate of the many weak-minded men of the world!)

  Here’s the thing you need to realize: Women are not all the innocent little good girls that society would have you believe. They want to be fucked hard, manhandled, and dominated. And this is especially true for women with a lot of career success that are used to being in the leadership role. Many of these women are turned on by losing control and having a man take them in a dominant way - they often like it even harder.

  So now you might be wondering, “How can I be more dominant?”

  I’ll give you a variety of ways to do so in this chapter. If you’ve never done any of them before, I recommend you start slow and gradually include more of these things in your sex sessions.

  Some of these things may seem a bit extreme to you. But an overwhelming majority of women love all of this dominant behavior, and they’ll orgasm a lot harder when you do it.

  Here are some ways you can be dominant in the bedroom…

  (Note: Have a little caution with this stuff the first time you have sex with a girl. For example, she might like to get her hair pulled a little bit but dislike getting spanked. If you try something a little bit and can sense she likes it, you can keep upping the level. You can also talk about what kind of stuff she loves to do in bed after you’ve had sex and do it in the next session.)

  Give Her Commands

  Stop asking permission during sex. If a woman doesn’t like something, she’ll let you know, either with her words or facial expressions.

  Instead of asking her permission, give her commands. By giving her commands, you allow her to let go, follow your lead, and completely submit to you. She doesn’t have to think logically about anything because you’re taking care of it all for her.

  But it’s important to give these commands in a confident way, without a seed of doubt in your mind. Their power lies in their confidence. If you give a weak command, she won’t follow it.

  Here are some commands you can use:

  “Get on your knees and put my cock in your mouth.” Sit on the edge of the bed or on a chair, and deliver this command.

  “Get on top of me and ride me.” Use this when you want her to get on top and ride you.

  “Look at me while you suck it.” Say this one while she’s giving you head.

  “Feel how hard you make me.” I like to say this one to lead into sex. To do this, stand up next to the bed while she’s sitting on the edge so that your dick is about face level with her. Then have her feel your erection from outside of your pants. Then, tell her to unbutton your pants, take it out, and suck it.

  “Turn around and lie on your stomach.” You can use this one when you want to move her into the doggy style position. I usually like to do this one simply by physically moving her, but you can also give this verbal command.

  “Strip for me.” There’s nothing sexier than when a girl takes her clothes off slowly for you. She removes her shirt, then bends down in front of you as she takes her pants off. Use this when you want to see that beautiful sight. (Though I recommend using it when a girl is particularly sexy and confident in her body. Otherwise she may feel insecure about doing it.)

  Experiment and make your own commands, too. Remember that you can turn anything that you want to do in the bedroom into a command.

  Pull Her Hair

  Whenever you pull her hair, make sure to do it from the roots (i.e. the part closest to her head) rather than the ends of her hair. This makes it more pleasurable instead of painful and also avoids any potential neck injuries.

  You should start light and notice how she responds to the hair pulling. If she likes it, then tug a little harder. If she doesn’t (or if you realize she has extensions), then stop pulling her hair (not every girl likes it).

  Here are some of the best times to pull her hair:

  - When you’re doing her doggy style, pull her head back by her hair and kiss her neck.

  - When she’s giving you head, pull the roots of her hair as leverage for moving her back and forth on your dick.

  - When you’re doing her in missionary with full contact, you can tug her hair back and lightly bite her neck.

  Manhandle Her

  Manhandling is a cornerstone of rough, dominant sex.

  It gives her just a little bit of pain while maximizing her psychological stimulation.

  Just be sure that when you do it, you do it carefully, so you don’t actually physically hurt her.

  Here are some ways you can manhandle a woman during sex:

  - Pick her up, have her wrap her legs around you, and pin her back against the wall.

  - When she’s riding you, put one arm around her waist and move her body up and down on your dick.

  - Physically move her into different positions. For example, if you want to move from a bed position to against the wall, you can take her hand, walk over to the wall, pin her against it, and take her from behind.

  Choke Her

  This is one you have to be especially cautious with (for obvious reasons) but also one that a lot of women surprisingly love. Some women will even say, “Choke me!” during sex.

  I recommend not trying this one out until you’ve had sex with a girl a few times (unless she blatantly tells you she wants it).

  If and when you choke a girl, do so by putting pressure on the sides of her neck instead of her windpipe so you don’t completely cut off her oxygen supply. Start gently, and be especially aware of her facial expressions to make sure she’s okay, and don’t choke her for more than twenty to thirty seconds at a time.

  Spank Her

  Of the hundreds of women I’ve been with, I’d say that roughly 90% (if not more) love to be spanked. In fact, I can’t even remember a specific time when a girl didn’t like it.

  You can spank her when doing her doggy style, while you’re in the “69” position and her ass is near your face, and pretty much at any time during sex.

  Start with a light spank, and if she likes it (or moans loudly), escalate a bit harder with each spank.

  Bite Her

  Biting can be very pleasurable for a girl…

  You can bite her nipples, neck, shoulders, ears, and lips.

  Start with soft bites, and if she reacts well, bite a little harder. Just try and avoid leaving a mark in an obvious place, like on her neck. And be careful when biting sensitives places like her nipples and lips.

  F*ck Her Face

  Some women love it when you thrust into their mouth. In fact, some of the most innocent-seeming girls I’ve met have been the ones who liked it the most.

  Not sure if she likes it? Well, the better she is at giving head, the more likely she wants you to fuck her face.

  Here’s the best position to do it in:

  Straddle her so that you’re positioned right below her breasts. Lift her head up slightly and put your dick into her mouth. Then start thrusting lightly. If she responds well and seems to like it, go a bit harder.

  Just be sure not to get too deep into her throat as this might cause her to throw up on your dick, and that’s no fun.

  Come on Her Face, in Her Mouth, and/or on Her Tits

  I used to never do this.

  “What if she doesn’t want the cum on her face, mouth, or body?” I thought…

  Then I dated a girl who literally begged me to come all over her face and body, and I thought, “This is awesome. I need to do this more often.”

  There’s something awesome about seeing a girl on her knees in front of you, mouth open and waiting to receive your load all over her. It’s the ultimate show of dominance. />
  So now I do it probably 80-90% of the time. And the girls just about always oblige, get on their knees, and take the load. They’ll do the same for you, too, if you’re dominant enough.

  However, until you get more experience with this, I recommend starting by coming on her tits.

  Here’s how to do it…

  - When you realize you’re about to finish, pull out and tell her you want to come all over her titties. It’s better to say you want to come on her titties the first time you’re having sex with a girl – that way you can gauge how down she is to get it on her face and in her mouth. If she’s comfortable with your dick in the area of her face and titties when you’re about to finish, then she’s most likely cool with you finishing on her face. If she seems hesitant, then you can always come on her tits this time and go for the face the next time when you have more comfort built up with her.

  - From here, you can either stand up and have her get on her knees (this is usually what I prefer), sit down on a chair or the edge of the bed and have her suck you off from there, or have her lie down on her back so you can thrust into her face till you finish.

  - Once you’re on the very edge of coming, tell her you want to come all over her pretty face.

  - Finish on her face, in her mouth, or on her tits, whichever you prefer.

  Wrapping Up Dominance…

  This is probably the most vulgar chapter so far in the book, and it may have even offended some people.

  But you know what? Very few people are actually going to tell it to you like it is when it comes to sex and dominance. All the sexless virgins and ghostwriting chumps with pathetic Amazon books about sex – they are certainly not going to tell it to you this way because they wouldn’t know good sex if it slapped them in the face.

  I tell you about dominance based not on theory but on experience with hundreds of women. So, you can believe me or not, but for the guys who take this and put it to use, your sex life is going to transform, and you’ll become the dominant man that the majority of women dream of. I can promise you that.

  Anyway, I guess all this sex-writing has got me fired up. So I’ll stop my tangent and give a quick recap of this chapter.

  Here’s the recap:

  - Women don’t like weak, vanilla men. They crave dominant men, and they want dominant sex.

  - Just because a woman likes some dominant behavior (like getting her hair pulled and being spanked) doesn’t mean she likes all dominant behavior. And just because she doesn’t like one type of behavior doesn’t mean she won’t like any other types. Experiment and see what your girl likes most.

  - In order to be dominant, you can do the following:

  - Give her commands instead of asking for permission.

  - Pull her hair from the roots.

  - Manhandle her to give her a little bit of pain with maximized psychological pleasure.

  - Choke her, but put pressure on the sides of her neck instead of her windpipe, and be very careful with this one.

  - Spank her.

  - F*ck her face by thrusting in and out of her mouth (just make sure not to go too deep into her throat).

  - Come on her face, in her mouth, and/or on her tits.

  Okay, so dominance is clearly important. But you need more than dominance to give a girl a great sexual experience.

  You need to balance it out with emotion. When you combine dominance and emotion, the sex goes from good to mind-blowing. And that’s what we’ll talk about next…

  Fundamental #17:

  Emotion

  Every woman has two sides…

  A part that wants to be dominated, and a part that wants to experience a wide range of emotions.

  If you’re ALL dominance ALL the time, she won’t be comfortable enough to fully give herself to you sexually.

  She needs to feel passion, and for that, she needs an emotional connection.

  That’s a reason behind the popularity of romance novels. Women get wrapped up in the emotions of it all – they dream of a man who can induce the same types of emotions.

  So, how do you give women that emotional experience in the bedroom? That’s what this chapter is all about…

  You’ll learn how to give her an emotional and passionate experience in the bedroom. You can combine this with dominance and even switch back and forth between dominance and emotion to add variety to a sex session.

  Let’s dive in.

  Connect with Her on an Emotional Level Before Sex

  A lot of the emotional part of a sexual experience comes before you have sex. If you haven’t connected with her on an emotional level beforehand, it’ll be hard to do so during sex. You have no foundation to work from.

  Here are some ways you can make that emotional connection before sex:

  - Talk about emotional topics that allow you to get to know her on a deeper level. Topics like her experiences, her dreams, her passions, and what she loves to do.

  - Keep the conversation focused on her so she feels invested in the interaction (because she doesn’t usually reveal so much about herself).

  - Tease her occasionally by doing things like accusing her of hitting on you and stereotyping her in a fun way (e.g. “Oh, you’re a country girl? So what do you do when you’re not square dancing?”)

  Look into Her Eyes

  Eye contact is powerful, especially during sex.

  You don’t need to hold it the whole time, but intermittent eye contact at the right moment will create an emotional experience.

  For example, when doing her in missionary with full contact, you can pull her head back and look into her eyes for ten to fifteen seconds.

  French Kiss Her

  When you share a French kiss during sex with a girl, it’s a very intimate thing. Basically, what you’re doing is giving her the sexual kiss we talked about before, except with a little more tongue.

  Here are some great ways to start this kind of kiss during sex:

  - Hold her hair tightly at its roots and kiss her in the missionary with full contact position.

  - When doing her doggy style, tug her hair back, turn her head sideways, and kiss her.

  - When she’s riding you on the edge of the bed while you’re sitting up, draw her head towards yours and kiss her.

  Moan and Grunt

  I found this a bit surprising, but girls tell me over and over again that most guys are silent during sex. Maybe it’s an ego thing, or maybe these guys just feel awkward. I’m not sure.

  Here’s what’s interesting: just about every girl I’ve been with has loved that I moan during sex and oral sex. It pleasures them when they see that the experience (and what they’re doing) is pleasuring me. Now, I’m not grunting like Venus and Serena Williams during a tennis match, but I’m doing enough to show that I’m very much enjoying the experience – and they love it.

  Moaning, by the way, is a sound that you make when feeling pleasure. Grunting is a sound you make when exerting effort.

  Here’s how you can get started moaning and grunting if you’ve never done it before…

  - Moan when she’s giving you a blowjob.

  - Moan when she’s riding you.

  - Grunt when you’re thrusting into her really hard.

  They key is to let it come out naturally. Don’t force it. Allow it to be an expression of what you’re feeling instead of a sound you’re trying to manufacture in your head.

  The more you do it, the more natural it will be.

  Wrapping Up Emotion…

  Emotion is an important part of a sexual experience with a girl. When you combine it with dominance, you can be a masterful lover.

  Here’s a recap of how to bring emotion into sex…

  - Connect with her on an emotional level before sex. This will give you a foundation for making things more emotional and passionate during sex.

  - Look into her eyes for ten to fifteen seconds while having sex with her, and repeat this every couple of minutes.

  - French kiss her to inc
rease the level of intimacy.