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  The Hook Up Handbook

  28 Sex Fundamentals to Give Her Mind-Blowing Orgasms

  Dave Perrotta

  Copyright © 2017 Dave Perrotta

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  Disclaimer

  All attempts have been made to verify the information in this book; however, neither the author nor the publisher assumes any responsibility for errors, omissions, or contrary interpretations of the content within.

  This book is for entertainment purposes only, and so the views of the author should not be taken as expert instruction or commands. The reader is responsible for his or her own actions.

  Neither the author nor the publisher assumes any responsibility or liability on behalf of the purchaser or reader of this book.

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  Contents

  Introduction

  What Life Will Look Like When You’re Great at Sex…

  Who Am I to Write a Book About Sex?

  How to Use This Book

  How The Hook Up Handbook Will Help You…

  Part I: The Sexual Landscape

  Why Most Men Are Mediocre in the Bedroom

  How She Thinks About Sex (and How YOU Need To)

  A Note on the Female Orgasm

  Part II: Developing Your Sexy Vibe

  Sex Begins Long Before Penetration…

  The 4 Fundamentals of a Sexy Vibe

  Fundamental #1: The “Surface Level” of Your Sexy Vibe

  Fundamental #2: The Physical Level of Your Sexy Vibe

  Fundamental #3: The Deeper Aspect of Your Sexy Vibe

  Fundamental #4: The Sexual Mindsets

  Part III: The “Setup” Fundamentals (Turn Her On and Get Her Ready)

  Without the “Setup,” You Can’t Close…

  Fundamental #5: Escalate Through “Sexy Talk”

  Fundamental #6: Recognize When She’s Horny (and Wants You to Make a Move)

  Fundamental #7: Turn Her On from the First Kiss (and Get Her Thinking About Sex)

  Fundamental #8: Transform Your Apartment into a Panty-Dropping Bachelor Pad

  Part IV: The Foreplay Fundamentals

  What Is Foreplay, and Why Is It Necessary?

  Fundamental #9: Know Her Most Important Parts

  Fundamental #10: Master the Art of the Sexual Massage

  Fundamental #11: The “Finger Dance” That Makes Her Squirt

  Fundamental #12: The Casanova Guide to Cunnilingus

  Fundamental #13: Teach Her to Give You Great Head (so She Gets Addicted)

  Part V: The Sex Fundamentals

  Fundamental #14: Consent and Protection

  Fundamental #15: 10 Orgasmic Sex Positions to Drive Her Wild (and How to Use Them)

  Fundamental #16: Dominance (The Right Way to Have Rough Sex)

  Fundamental #17: Emotion

  Fundamental #18: The “Motion of the Ocean”

  Fundamental #19: Dirty Talk

  Fundamental #20: Variety

  Fundamental #21: Orgasmic Anal Sex

  Part VI: How to Last Longer, Stay Harder, and Beat Performance Anxiety

  What It Takes to Last Longer (and the Roots of Performance Anxiety)

  Fundamental #22: Good Stamina and Breath Control

  Fundamental #23: Get a “Main Girl”

  Fundamental #24: Practice Vulnerability

  Fundamental #25: Get Harder Erections

  Fundamental #26: Use These Tips to Last Longer

  Part VII: What to Do After Sex

  Fundamental #27: Show Her You Care

  Fundamental #28: Ask Her the Right Questions After Sex

  Epilogue: A Sunrise over Medellin

  A Final Recap

  Your Next Step

  Can You Do Me a Favor?

  About the Author

  Introduction

  What Life Will Look Like When You’re Great at Sex…

  Do you know how to have the sort of mind-blowing, orgasmic sex that women tell their friends about?

  Or do your sex sessions fizzle out in a few minutes and end with a dud?

  For most guys, it’s the latter. They don’t know how to have sex with a girl the right way. It’s no wonder why so many relationships are in turmoil and so many women cheat.

  To be frank, these women want some good sex, and their man just isn’t delivering.

  If you don’t give your woman good sex – whether she’s a girlfriend, friend with benefits, or wife – she’s not going to stick around for long. And if by chance she does, she’ll probably get some on the side (even if you think she’s a “good girl” who would never do a thing like that).

  On the other hand, here are some things you can expect when you know how to have great sex with women:

  - You’ll enjoy the sex a lot more yourself and actually look forward to it instead of being insecure about it.

  - Women will literally get hooked on sex with you – they’ll want to keep coming back again and again.

  - It’ll be a lot easier to get a girlfriend and make her want you.

  - Your girlfriend/wife will be a lot less likely to “get some” on the side.

  - Your sex reputation will spread, especially if you’re in a small social circle (and other women will get curious about you and want to see for themselves).

  - You’ll be a lot more confident when flirting with women, because you’ll know you can give her a great experience in bed if it comes to that (whereas if you’re insecure about your sexual prowess, you’ll likely sabotage your chances with women to stop the possibility of sex happening).

  (If none of those bullet points above sound familiar, then you’re probably not great at sex just yet.)

  So yeah, sex is pretty damn important. If you want to have fulfilling relationships with women, you need to get good in the sack. This book is going to help you do it.

  And even if you are great at sex, there’s always room for improvement. That way, you can keep yourself sharp and your women satisfied.

  As you build your sexual prowess and ability, you will see the world in a different light. You’ll look at women differently, and they’ll see you differently as a result.

  You’ll give off a different vibe and energy… One of confidence and sexual understanding.

  Women will sense this vibe more and more as you continue to improve, and you’ll become a naturally attractive man.

  I’ve seen it happen in my life over the years, as well as in the lives of many of my friends.

  And if you read through this entire book and apply what you learn, it will happen to you as well.

  You’ll become the guy who goes for what he wants with women.

  You’ll be the guy who has women moaning from his bedroom every night. And you’ll be the guy who women rave about to their friends.

  It doesn’t matter whether you have a lot of sexual experience or none at all…

  The
sex fundamentals you’re about to learn will work for you. And while all women are different, they all respond to the same fundamentals.

  So sit down and buckle up. The way you have sex is about to change forever.

  Who Am I to Write a Book About Sex?

  Before we go any further, you might be thinking, “Who is this guy, and what does he know about great sex?!”

  I get it, man. You’ve been fed shitty sex advice for years, by “scientists” who probably haven’t had sex in decades and nerds who are probably still virgins.

  (I read all their books and listened to their audiobooks while I was doing research, and I cringed the whole time…)

  You’re not about to trust your sex life to another random schmuck (or sexless nerd) who doesn’t know what the hell he’s talking about (or hasn’t been there and done that).

  So let me introduce myself. My name is Dave Perrotta. I’m a dating coach, best-selling author, and the founder of PostGradCasanova.

  And while I can rant about how I’ve sold tens of thousands of books and had sex with hundreds of women from all over the world—or how my blog gets over 150,000 visits per month—I don’t want to be a douche.

  But I haven’t always been able to give women orgasm after orgasm.

  Things used to be A LOT different…

  Hell, the first few girls I kissed remarked that I was “one hell of a bad kisser.”

  In fact, I was so bad that I accidentally gave one of them a fat lip… from kissing! Talk about awkward…

  (And no, she never talked to me again… and I’m pretty sure she’s a lesbian now!)

  And when I eventually started having sex, things didn’t get much better.

  I still remember one cringeworthy sexual experience from back then…

  ***

  My friend and I had just brought two girls back to their college dorm. We’d met them at a party an hour or so beforehand, and it was ON. We all knew what was going to go down that night…

  We walked into their dorm room and noticed their beds were only separated by a few feet. We gave each other a devious glance – we knew what was in store…

  After a quick drink and some flirting, we started hooking up with the girls.

  Clothes came off. I started having sex with my girl, and he started having sex with his.

  (It was a bit funny to see out of the corner of my eye – he was a 6’5’’ dude from the college football team, and his girl was about 5’1.)

  All was going well…

  Until a couple minutes in…

  I was trying to hold it back, but I lost control…

  Boom. I came after less than five minutes.

  “What happened? Are you all good?” she asked.

  “Yeah, I just came… I usually don’t finish this quickly…” I shrugged.

  “Oh, okay…” she said.

  But my friend was far from finished…

  As my girl and I sat there on the bed, he kept f*cking and making his girl moan for an hour.

  I felt awkward, inadequate, and embarrassed. It’s bad enough when you finish in less than 5 minutes… but it’s even worse when your friend is clearly giving the other girl an amazing sexual experience just a few feet away.

  ***

  How I Learned to Be Great at Sex

  In the early days, my sex life had a lot of mediocre and embarrassing moments.

  I couldn’t last very long, and I didn’t really know what the hell I was doing even when I could manage to last longer than a few minutes.

  I always felt apprehensive when I brought a girl home, because I wasn’t confident I could give her a great experience.

  I knew I had to do something about this problem…

  After some careful thought, it seemed like there were two big things I needed to do…

  The first? Talk to guys who were great at sex and learn what they were doing in the bedroom.

  The second? Get more sexual experience with women so I could learn what different girls like, train myself to last longer, and gain more sexual confidence.

  I knew the second wouldn’t be too difficult. My conversation and flirting skills were improving rapidly, and I had no issue picking up women and bringing them to the bedroom.

  (If you have trouble flirting and talking to women, I recommend checking out my free video course on conversation and flirting at: bit.ly/handbookcourse.)

  The first would be a little tougher. It’d require me to open myself up and admit that I wasn’t where I wanted to be in my sex life. But I had no choice.

  So I approached a few of the guys in my fraternity who I knew were great at sex…

  These guys had a reputation. You’d always hear women moaning from their bedrooms, and the girls on campus would gossip about it. They all wanted to experience their bedroom prowess and see what the hype was about.

  A few of the guys laughed at first, but I think they appreciated my honesty because they started to reveal their secrets…

  (Which, to my surprise, were actually quite simple…)

  I started applying a few of these secrets with the girls I had sex with, and I noticed an immediate improvement.

  I still wasn’t quite where I wanted to be, but I was getting better quickly.

  As I applied these secrets with more and more women, I began to build on them and experiment with new things. Some of them worked, and some of them didn’t. So I took what worked and kept moving forward.

  ***

  Fast-forward seven years. I’ve lived in seven different countries and slept with hundreds more women, and I’ve continued to improve in the bedroom.”

  I’ve learned something new from practically all of these women… from what they like and don’t like, to what I can do better, to what women really need and crave, and a lot more.

  I’ve also learned to last as long as I want (or, as long as the girl can take it!) and give women mind-blowing orgasms. I now enjoy sex A LOT more too.

  My confidence is through the roof because I know I can give any girl an amazing night of sex. This is a stark contrast from my early days, when I just hoped I’d be able to last ten minutes!

  I have a lot more confidence when I’m dating women, too. I know I can satisfy a girlfriend in the bedroom, and she won’t have the desire to mess around with other guys.

  I’ve also started PostGradCasanova, where I’ve helped thousands of men improve their confidence, master conversation skills, and have amazing sex lives.

  And now, I want to help you.

  As I said before, I did a lot of research on the subject of sex, and I was disappointed with what I found. Nerds, virgins, and sexless scientists spouting bullshit.

  There are no guys who actually get laid writing about sex. It’s time to change that.

  I’ve seen the importance of great sex when it comes to cultivating a strong connection with a woman, and I want to help guys make those deeper connections.

  You see, to give a woman great orgasmic sex you don’t need to have a gigantic penis, last for hours, or memorize all the special Kamasutra techniques. It’s a lot simpler and easier than that.

  I’ve distilled great sex down to a set of fundamentals. I’ll show you how to learn, internalize, and apply these fundamentals, so that women will literally crave sex with you (and have orgasm after orgasm).

  This book will reshape the way you think about sex, and your future women will thank you for reading it.

  How to Use This Book

  Anyone can pick up this book and read it – but not everyone will see results.

  To get the most out of this book, you must do 2 things:

  1. Be open to accepting new ideas.

  2. Make an effort to apply the fundamentals.

  Sex is a sensitive subject for a lot of guys. Their egos are attached to their sexual ability, so to admit they need help in this area can be a tough blow.

  I know, because I had to deal with that tough blow to the ego, too. But I’m glad I did.

  Now, if you
’re not having the quality of sex you want with the type of women you desire, then your sex life could use some improvement.

  In this book, you’ll learn a set of fundamentals that will help you make that improvement in a big way.

  But you can’t just read a book like this and expect to get results. You have to actually try and apply the fundamentals in your life – and in the bedroom as well.

  Some of these fundamentals will push you out of your comfort zone a bit. But once you try them, you’ll see exactly why they drive women so wild.

  If you actually apply these fundamentals and master them, you’ll attract more women, have an unbelievable sex life, and significantly improve your current and future relationships with women.