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  Now, with this in mind, let’s get into the actual sex positions!

  I’ll score each one based on the level of skin-to-skin contact, the energy you’ll have to use to do it, the variations it has (if any), and the easiest position to transition to afterwards.

  You can see an illustration of each of these positions here: http://postgradcasanova.com/10-sex-positions/

  (Amazon wouldn’t let me include the illustrations within the book. Trust me, I tried, but the flagged by book for “Adult content” so I had to remove them. Sorry about that!)

  1. Missionary With Full Contact

  Skin-to-skin contact: Maximized

  Energy used: Medium

  This isn’t your traditional “awkward sex on prom night” missionary position. You know, the one with your arms on either side of the girl, hoisting yourself up above her while you pump in and out.

  No, this is the evolved (and much more pleasurable) version.

  This is one of the best (if not the best) position to start with. It’s simple, allows you to get a good rhythm going, and doesn’t expend too much of your energy too quickly. It also allows you to control the pace so you don’t overstimulate yourself and come before you want to.

  Here’s how to do it…

  While she’s on her back, get on top of her and position yourself in between her legs like you’d normally do with missionary.

  But, instead of hoisting yourself up with your hands, position your body against hers so that your torsos rub against each other. Put both elbows and forearms on the bed up near her shoulders for support.

  Place your left hand behind her neck and your right hand behind her left shoulder. This will help you get more leverage for thrusting and also make it easy to grab the roots of her hair in a dominant way (we’ll talk more about that later in this part of the book).

  Why is this position great? Aside from the fact that it helps you set the rhythm and get things off to a good start, it also maximizes contact between her clitoris and your pelvic region. This combination of vaginal and clitoral stimulation can lead to a quick orgasm or, at the very least, a lot of added pleasure for the girl.

  Best position to transition to: Scissor doggy style

  Variations:

  - Wrap her legs around your waist.

  - Grab both of her ass cheeks with your hands and use them to pull yourself into her on each thrust.

  - Lift her by her lower back with both hands, hoist her up gently, and thrust (keep in mind this expends a lot more energy on your part).

  - While holding her head by the root of her hair with one hand, place the other hand on her butt cheek. This allows you to grab her ass and also stroke her leg and upper thigh.

  - Put a pillow underneath her butt to help get a better angle.

  - Kiss her neck and nibble on her ear while you penetrate her.

  2. Scissor Doggy Style

  Skin-to-skin contact: Medium

  Energy used: Medium

  This is pretty much the “go-to” position I transition to after missionary with full contact. I think it’s a slightly rarer position based on the pleasantly surprised looks I get from girls when I do it. I’ve also had several girls tell me they’d never even seen a guy try it before.

  Here’s how to do it…

  If you’re already having sex with her in the missionary with full contact position, then you don’t even need to take your penis out of her vagina.

  Sit up on your knees and turn her onto her right side with both of her legs together (if you’re familiar with yoga, this looks like the sideways savasana pose where she’s lying down on her side with both her legs curled up together to one side).

  Then, lift her inner leg (i.e. the one not touching the bed), and move your body forward so that her outer leg is between your knees.

  At this point, you’re basically sitting up straight with her right leg inside the gap between your legs.

  This allows you to thrust deeply and easily grab her ass and titties.

  Best position to transition to: Doggy style

  Variation: Instead of getting in between her legs, fuck her while both of her legs are together and you’re kneeling behind them. Here, you’re having sex with her while she’s in the “savasana” type of pose that I just mentioned.

  3. Doggy Style

  It’s the tried-and-true position that you’ve almost certainly heard of already.

  It gives you a great view of her ass and body and easy access to spanking her.

  What I’ve noticed is that the better a girl’s ass is, the more likely she’s going to want to get into this position first. She’ll hop on the bed and hoist her ass up. So hop on there and give her what she wants!

  Here’s how to do it:

  Have her get on the bed on all fours. Get up behind her while you’re on your knees, penetrate her, and start thrusting.

  Reach around and occasionally grab her titties. You can also reach around and rub her clit with your fingers, since the position itself doesn’t stimulate it.

  Best position to transition to: Lying flat doggy style

  Variations:

  - Sit back so that your butt touches your ankles, and pull her ass and upper body back so that her back touches your chest while you enter her from behind.

  - Put one leg up near her side like you’re taking a knee, and continue thrusting. This will help you thrust deeper.

  4. Lying Flat Doggy Style

  Skin-to-skin contact: Medium to maximum

  Energy used: Medium to high

  This position gives you a lot of what’s awesome about regular doggy style but adds more skin-to-skin contact.

  Here’s how to do it…

  Have her get into the regular doggy style position and penetrate her. Then have her lie flat down on the bed with her legs together. Get on top of her so that your stomach is touching her back. Start thrusting.

  This allows you to easily kiss her neck from behind, talk dirty into her ear, and spank her.

  Best position to transition to: Doggy style

  Variations:

  - While inside of her, turn your body so that it’s perpendicular to hers and keep thrusting.

  - Instead of thrusting, have her rotate her ass so that she’s controlling the speed and type of penetration.

  - Put a pillow under her lower abdomen to get in at a better angle.

  5. Her on Top

  Skin-to-skin contact: Low to medium

  Energy used: Low

  Here’s another classic position.

  Her on top can be intimate or rough. She can do most (or all) of the work, or you can switch it up, grab her ass, and thrust into her.

  Here’s how to do it…

  Lie down on the bed and tell her to get on top and ride you.

  While she rides you, you can grab her titties, ass, and whatever part of her body you want. Enjoy the view and watch those titties bounce up and down as she pleasures the both of you.

  Best position to transition to: Reverse cowgirl

  Variations:

  - Put your knees up, bring her in closer to you, and thrust into her.

  - Hoist yourself up so that your torso is parallel to hers, and suck on her titties.

  - Move to the edge of the bed and put your feet on the floor. Have her straddle you while she faces you. This dramatically increases skin-to-skin contact and allows you to go deeper.

  6. Reverse Cowgirl

  Skin-to-skin contact: Low

  Energy used: Low

  This is basically the reverse of her on top. It gives you a clear view of her ass as she rides you while facing in the opposite direction.

  Here’s how to do it…

  Lie down on the bed and position her so that her ass is facing you, and she’s looking towards your feet. Tell her to ride you.

  Smack her ass and enjoy the view as she goes up and down.

  Best position to transition to: Edge-of-bed reverse cowgirl

  Variation: Bring her lower back t
owards you, bend your knees, and thrust into her.

  7. Edge-of-Bed Reverse Cowgirl

  Skin-to-skin contact: Low to medium

  Energy used: Low

  This one is similar to regular reverse cowgirl in that she’s riding you while facing in the opposite direction.

  But instead of lying down, you’re on the edge of the bed with your feet on the floor. It’s great for making more skin-to-skin contact

  Here’s how to do it…

  Sit on the edge of the bed so that your feet are planted on the ground. Spread your legs apart a bit so that she can easily sit on you and put her own legs between them. Then, position her so that she can ride you with both of her legs together and her ass facing you. Her feet should be touching the ground too.

  It’s basically like how you’d imagine a lap dance, except instead of dancing on you, she’s having sex with you.

  Best position to transition to: Mirror (or Standing) Doggy Style

  Variations:

  - Wrap your arms around her lower waist and move her up and down as you thrust into her.

  - Lie back like you would during regular reverse cowgirl.

  8. Mirror (or Standing) Doggy Style

  Skin-to-skin contact: Low to Medium

  Energy used: High

  This is the standing up version of doggy, except it’s enhanced with the help of a mirror.

  (All the better if you have a big mirror near your bed so that you can do this easily.)

  The mirror is great because it allows you to see each other’s expressions and full bodies. You can see her moan and watch her titties bounce, and she can see the pleasure that she’s giving you.

  Here’s how to do it…

  Tell her to stand up and plant her hands near (or on) the mirror (either on the wall, the bureau, or something else that’s sturdy).

  Then, thrust into her vagina from behind.

  You can wrap your arms around her waist, grab her titties for leverage, and even yank her head up by the root of her hair so that she looks in the mirror and watches as you take her from behind.

  Best position to transition to: Any doggy style position, as well as edge-of-bed reverse cowgirl

  Variation: Turn so that the sides of your bodies are facing the mirror instead of looking at it head on. That way, you can see the sex from a different angle and intensify the experience.

  9. Legs Over Shoulders

  Skin-to-skin contact: Medium

  Energy used: High

  This is a little tweaking of the missionary position that allows you to go deeper and enjoy the feeling of her beautiful legs.

  Just be careful not to go too deep here as this can hurt her.

  Here’s how to do it…

  Have her lie down on the bed. Get between her legs and raise them as you thrust into her. Lean forward so that your face is above her breasts (or above her face if she’s on the shorter side, or you’re on the taller side), and her legs are straddling your shoulders.

  Thrust in and out and enjoy the view of her entire upper body.

  Best position to transition to: Scissor doggy style

  Variations:

  - Hold her legs straight up and together slightly to your left or right side, and continue thrusting.

  - Stand on the floor at the edge of the bed. Pull her in so that her ass is on the edge, then put her feet over your shoulders and thrust. This gives you a little more thrusting power than when you’re on your knees on the bed.

  10. Her on Top (While You’re Sitting on a Chair)

  Skin-to-skin contact: High

  Energy used: Low to medium

  If you have a somewhat narrow chair with no arm rests, this one is the perfect way to utilize it.

  Sit down on the chair and have her straddle you so that her legs are on either side of you.

  Have her ride you up and down and side to side.

  You can grab her ass and help her move in whatever way you want her to ride you.

  This position allows you to get deeper and also make direct contact with the clitoris.

  Best position to transition to: Reverse cowgirl

  Variation: Wrap your arms around her lower waist and suck on her titties while you help hoist her up and down or back and forth.

  Wrapping Up the Sex Positions (and How to Use Them)…

  You’ve now got plenty of sex positions in your arsenal. You know how to transition between them, how to add variety to them, and how to make them more intense.

  The rest of the sex fundamentals we’ll cover will allow you to make the most out of every one of these positions and give her an experience quite unlike any she’s ever had before.

  To recap, here are the positions:

  1. Missionary with full contact

  2. Scissor doggy style

  3. Doggy style

  4. Lying flat doggy style

  5. Her on top

  6. Reverse cowgirl

  7. Edge-of-bed reverse cowgirl

  8. Mirror (or standing) doggy style

  9. Legs over shoulders

  10. Her on top while you’re sitting on a chair

  And one more reminder that you can see an illustration of each of these positions here: http://postgradcasanova.com/10-sex-positions/

  Fundamental #16:

  Dominance

  (The Right Way to Have Rough Sex)

  If you forced me to choose the most important fundamental in this book, it’d be this one.

  Dominance is perhaps the biggest key when it comes to having mind-blowing sex with a woman. Without it, you won’t be able to get her off consistently.

  You see, the feminine loves to be dominated. That’s why women love men who dominate their own lives and go for what they want. That’s why they love books like 50 Shades of Grey.

  But most men don’t know how to dominate women in the bedroom. They’re more vanilla than soft serve ice cream.

  Here are some non-dominant things that most vanilla men do in the bedroom:

  - They ask, “Did you like it?” They crave validation from women and just want to get a nod saying that they did an okay job.

  - They ask, “Is this good for you?” They don’t have the sexual awareness or confidence to be sure whether a girl likes something or not.

  - They ask instead of command. “Can you give me a blowjob?” “Can we have sex doggy style?” “Can I come on your tits?” These men are always asking permission instead of taking what they want. This is a big turn-off for women.

  - They avoid rough sex. The average guy doesn’t want to have rough sex because he’s afraid the girl won’t like it. So he sticks mostly with regular missionary, pushing himself up above the girl and looking into her eyes as he gingerly pumps away.

  All of this probably sounds a bit… weak, right? It should.

  (I’m guessing you’ve probably never heard a girl say, “The sex was amazing! He was so kind the whole time. He asked permission before we switched positions, made sure I was enjoying it, and he even thanked me afterwards! What a gentleman!”)

  Men like this are the ones who complain that their women hardly ever want to have sex anymore. They’re the men whose women run off with guys that know how to have great sex (you know, the types of guys that read this book and take action on it).