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  Run your hands up her legs one more time, then start working her ass and lower back again and move to her upper back and shoulders. Lie across her back with your face near hers and remember to hold your own weight.

  From there, gently pull her face closer to you from behind, turn her head slightly, and start kissing her neck and then her lips.

  You can then turn her over and massage the front of her body or simply kiss her and her body and transition into foreplay (or sex). Either one works well.

  Wrapping Up the Art of the Sexual Massage…

  Once you give a girl a sexual massage, the mood should be very ON. She should be craving sex at this point even if the two of you haven’t yet slept together.

  To recap, here are the three important elements of the sexual massage:

  - Get the right tools, like scented candles, incense, massage oil, and good music.

  - Start the massage on her middle to upper back, shoulders, arms, and hands.

  - Make the massage sexual by stroking her legs and turning away from her pussy at the last moment.

  From here, it’s time to move on to the next foreplay fundamental: fingering her.

  Fundamental #11:

  The “Finger Dance” That Makes Her Squirt

  Your fingers are powerful when it comes to foreplay…

  The problem is, most guys don’t know the right way to use them. They jam their fingers in and just kind of hope for the best.

  The result? Sometimes the guy gets lucky and hits the right spots. But usually, he leaves the girl wondering what the hell he’s trying to accomplish down there, and sometimes he even hurts or scratches her by accident.

  I’ll show you a better approach so that you can turn girls on and give them orgasms just by using your hands.

  But before we get into it, let’s lay out a few ground rules…

  Keep your hands well groomed.

  You don’t want to go down there with hands looking like Wolverine’s or Freddy Krueger’s. That’s how you end up hurting a girl.

  Instead, make sure to keep your hands and nails well groomed.

  That means keep your finger nails trimmed and clean (no dirt underneath), and wash your hands consistently. This helps prevent the spread of bacteria and also helps you avoid accidental scratches and bleeding.

  Tease her beforehand to get her wet and build anticipation.

  It’s much better to start fingering her when she’s already wet and turned on than to go in there when she’s dry.

  This builds anticipation, which makes the experience better for her when you start fingering her.

  So make sure to tease her beforehand. We’ll talk more about that in the next fundamental, but here are a few tips:

  - Give her a sexual massage like we talked about in the last chapter.

  - Kiss her neck, ears, abdomen, and inner thighs.

  - Give her sexual kisses on the lips.

  Get comfortable.

  Position yourself comfortably before you start fingering her. That way, you won’t tire yourself out, and you can keep at it for as long as you need to.

  Experiment with different positions to get a sense of which ones work best for you. For example, you can lie next to her and kiss her while doing it or get down in between her legs and do it from there.

  Start slow.

  Her vagina and clitoris are sensitive, so don’t jam your fingers in and start flicking her clit at full force.

  Start slow – graze her vagina and clit with your fingertips and create more build up.

  Then insert the first finger and finger her slowly for a minute or two. Afterwards, add in the second finger and start revving things up.

  Be aware of her reaction.

  Like most things in sex, her reaction says it all. If she’s moaning loudly and seems to be enjoying herself, then keep doing what you’re doing. She may be close to having an orgasm, and you shouldn’t switch things up in that moment.

  Have some lube ready.

  You won’t necessarily have to use it, especially if you get her really wet beforehand. But it’s good to have nearby, just in case.

  And if you go for multiple rounds of sex, the lube will make things easier, as she may dry out more quickly (even if she’s turned on).

  Okay, with those things in mind, let’s get into the techniques…

  The “Finger Dance” That Makes Her Squirt

  There’s a simple fingering method that can make most women squirt.

  I remember when I first learned it…

  I was living in Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam, and I met an incredibly sexual Spanish girl.

  She had a vibrant sexual energy that you could sense just by looking into her eyes. She was 10 years older than me and knew her way around the bedroom.

  And she wasn’t afraid to bluntly tell me what she liked and didn’t like…

  One night, as we were lying in bed, she turned to me…

  “I want to show you something. This is the secret to making any girl squirt in minutes. And I want you to do it to me…”

  I’d never made a girl squirt before, but I’d heard stories of it happening and seen it in porn. I’d always wanted to do it, and I knew this was my chance.

  That’s when she showed me the “finger dance” that I’m about to show you…

  First, though, I should tell you that you don’t need to do this every time. I break it out on occasion with a girl I really like. It’s an intense experience, and I don’t want to share it with just any girl – especially because it can create a powerful emotional response from her that you don’t want unless you do indeed really like a girl.

  Also, a couple of notes on squirting:

  - Squirting is basically female ejaculation. It doesn’t happen every time a girl has an orgasm, but it can happen occasionally during sex and fingering.

  - When it happens, liquid literally squirts out of her vagina with force.

  - It doesn’t necessarily mean the orgasm is any better than a normal orgasm, but it does allow you to provide the girl with a unique and pleasurable experience that she probably hasn’t had before.

  - You don’t need to use this technique solely to make her squirt. You can also use it just to get her extra wet and lubricated before sex or cunnilingus.

  Here’s how to do it…

  1. Have her lie on your bed face up with her legs open.

  2. Get into a comfortable position. Try lying on her left side so that you’re perpendicular to her body (i.e. your bodies form an “L” shape,” and your head is near her stomach so that you can see her vagina.

  3. Insert your index finger and find her “G” spot. As I mentioned earlier, her G spot is usually two to three inches up against the front of her vaginal wall (if it feels ribbed and textured, you’re on the right track).

  4. Stroke her G spot slowly with your index finger, as though using it to make a “come hither” gesture.

  5. After two or three minutes, speed up the strokes and insert your middle finger.

  6. Cup her clit with the palm of your hand, and pull your hand up and down as you finger her. This will stimulate both her clit and her G spot at the same time.

  7. Keep this going for 10-15 minutes, speeding up and going full force as she’s about to climax. Get into it yourself too, and coach her by saying things like, “Yes baby, you’re so sexy, push for me baby, I love watching you cum.”

  Note: The most important thing is to get into a good rhythm with her. Some girls squirt much faster than others, so while 10-15 minutes is a good benchmark, every girl is different.

  When you do this, keep in mind that the more comfortable a girl is with you, the easier it will be for her to squirt.

  And if she doesn’t squirt, don’t beat yourself up over it. It’s still a great way to turn her on and lead into sex.

  The Slider

  This one is a lot simpler than the finger dance we just talked about. It’s great for when you want to quickly stimulate her and get her wet before
cunnilingus or sex.

  Start by putting your middle and ring fingers on her mons pubis above her vagina. Then slide them down on either side of her labia. Continue until you reach the vaginal opening and insert your fingers. Repeat this process and increase the speed as she becomes more aroused.

  Experiment!

  Don’t just stick to these techniques. The goal here isn’t to get you thinking technically every time you want to finger a girl.

  Instead, it’s to give you a basis to go off of so you have a place to get started.

  Experiment on your own and get to know a girl’s vagina with your hands. Get a sense for what she likes and doesn’t like. Hell, you might even come up with some of your own finger moves in the process.

  A Note on Going Down Under…

  More girls than you’d think like at least a little bit of ass play.

  Some women may ask you to put a finger in their anus while you give them cunnilingus or finger them. Others like it but won’t come out and tell you they want it right away.

  If you’re into this kind of thing too, you can experiment with a girl by putting a finger on her perineum and applying a little bit of pressure. If she reacts positively, move your finger closer to her anus. If her reaction is still positive, you can go for it by putting one finger inside of it.

  Wrapping Up Fingering Techniques…

  Your fingers are powerful tools for giving a girl orgasms and making her squirt. But like any set of tools, you have to use them the right way in order to be effective.

  Here’s a recap of this fundamental:

  - Keep the ground rules in mind, like having well-groomed hands, teasing her beforehand, and starting slow.

  - The more comfortable a girl is with you, the easier it will be for her to squirt.

  - The “finger dance” and the slider are two great techniques to keep in mind when fingering a girl.

  - Experiment yourself to see what each girl likes best.

  - Some girls like anal play – so keep that in mind if you’re into that kind of thing, too.

  Fundamental #12:

  The Casanova Guide to Cunnilingus

  Oral sex – also known as cunnilingus (when it’s performed on a woman) – is the key to really amazing foreplay.

  But like many aspects of sex, most men don’t know how to do it right. And so the majority of women experience bad oral sex. It’s awkward, it hurts, or it’s just plain mediocre, and they can barely feel it.

  But if you can give your woman good cunnilingus, she’ll love you for it. She’ll want to have sex again and again, and you’ll be able to please her with ease.

  The funny thing is, it’s not hard to give great cunnilingus if you know what to do. But again, most guys go in at random and hope for the best. They lap the girl’s pussy up like a dog and use no finesse.

  If you apply what you learn in this chapter, though, you’ll put yourself ahead of the majority of men who never even consider how to improve their cunnilingus skills.

  I’ll start by showing you the right way to tease her, as this will get her revved up and make the cunnilingus exponentially more pleasurable for her. Then I’ll give you some techniques you can use as well as the signs that tell you she’s thoroughly enjoying what you’re doing down there.

  Let’s get into it…

  Tease Her (Don’t Go for the Clit Right Away)

  Foreplay is all about teasing, and even teasing has different levels. Cunnilingus is the last level – it’s what all the rest of the foreplay builds up to.

  So you shouldn’t go right for clit – allow for some build-up first. Build the anticipation up to the point when she can barely handle it anymore, and then get started.

  Here are some ways to tease her before you start the cunnilingus:

  Kiss her erogenous zones.

  Erogenous zones are areas of the body with heightened sensitivity. When you kiss and caress these zones, you’ll instantly turn a woman on. Let’s go through each of these zones:

  - Her ears. Kiss and suck her ears, and nibble on her ear lobes.

  - Her neck. Kiss, suck on, and gently bite her neck.

  - Her lips. Give her sexual kisses and gently bite her lower lip.

  - Her breasts. Caress her breasts by circling her nipples with your fingers. Kiss around the nipples, then gently start kissing and sucking on them.

  - Her inner thighs. Start by running your hands down each of her inner thighs, then turn away right when you get close to her vagina. Then, starting from the top, kiss both of her inner thighs down to her ankles and back up again.

  Give her a sexual massage.

  Put what you learned from the sexual massage fundamental into action.

  Kiss around her vagina.

  After sucking on her breasts, slowly move down and kiss and lick her stomach. Right as you get to the mons pubis (the area just above her vagina), turn away and move to her inner thighs. You can lightly breathe on her vagina as you go down, which adds more intensity to the teasing.

  And when you do make the move for her vagina, don’t go for the clit right away. Kiss and lick her inner labia and the parts around the clit first.

  Use your fingers.

  Lightly graze her vagina and clit with your fingers after you kiss her erogenous zones.

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  Use at least a few of these tips to tease her, and she’ll be ready to go for cunnilingus. Hell, she’ll probably even be begging you to do it.

  At that point, you can use some of the cunnilingus techniques below:

  Cunnilingus Techniques That Will Drive Her Wild

  Half the battle is knowing what to do – that way, you don’t end up slobbering around her vagina without a purpose or clue.

  Before we get into specific techniques, though, I’ll give you some basics for good cunnilingus. If you follow these, you’ll be able to perform any technique well.

  - Start slow. Don’t go in there with full force right from the outset. Start slow and gradually build up to make it more and more intense. This allows you to pace yourself as well so that you don’t run out of steam and tire out your tongue too quickly.

  - Make occasional eye contact. Just as you’ll enjoy when a girl looks up at you when she gives you head, the girl will enjoy it when you return the favor. So look up at her and make eye contact occasionally as you perform cunnilingus – it makes the experience more intense and immersive.

  - Use the different parts of your tongue (with some force). Your tongue is a muscle with different parts to it. So add some strength behind it when you eat her out.

  - Don’t just rely on your tongue. You can also rotate your head and jaw to add intensity and assist your tongue with the movements.

  - Moan and show her you like it. As you’ll learn in the next set of fundamentals, women like when you moan and grunt during sex and foreplay. When you moan during foreplay, it shows her that you enjoy what you’re doing, and it reassures her that you’re happy to be down there. This is key because some girls can be insecure about their lady parts.

  - Tongue movements. Side to side, flicking, and circular motions on her clit with your tongue will drive her wild. When in doubt, move your tongue so that it hits different parts of her clit and labia.

  - Rhythm. This is especially important when she’s on her way to coming. You need to be able to maintain the rhythmic tongue motion and give her continued stimulation. If you stop when she’s about to finish, you may rob her of an orgasm.

  - Fingers. You don’t always need to use your fingers during cunnilingus, but they can help. You can put one or two fingers in and finger her to the rhythm of your tongue motions. You can also just leave the finger in without moving it much.

  Now that you know the basics, here are some tried and true cunnilingus techniques that you can use…

  First, I’ll note that you shouldn’t get too caught up in whether or not you’re doing the technique right. For example, don’t think, “Am I making the right circles?!” Just keep them in the ba
ck of your mind as you do the basics. You’ll know if she’s enjoying it by the way she reacts (which you’ll learn more about at the end of this chapter).

  1) Circles

  Position your tongue on the right or left side of her clit. Then move it around only the clit in a clockwise or counterclockwise motion.